Taking a few minutes out of your busy day to be quiet and mindful of your thoughts helps you to recognize when you’re making mountains out of molehills. And when you’re feeling so much pressure from life, isn’t it nice to know that you can always turn within, to slow all the craziness back down?

IStock_000014426565XSmall_balance I’ve been noticing a lot of conversations on Facebook that women are having with each other about being so frustrated with themselves because they fear gaining weight over the holidays.

If you’ve been having a tough time and you’re beating up on yourself for overeating, I want you to know that no good can come from you beating up on yourself. Because you’ll only be adding insult to injury. It’s like pouring salt on a wound. You’re already hurting. Why pummel yourself to the ground when you’re already down?

So many times we are our own worst enemies, because we put ourselves through so much unnecessary torture, unreasonable deadlines, making promises that we can’t keep, and looking for validation from others and ignoring our own inner wisdom.

The Benefits of Going Within

Have you ever noticed how sometimes the world seems to go by so fast and there doesn’t seem to be enough time in the day to just slow down?

Don’t buy into it. It’s not true. It’s just an illusion. It’s just your perception of the way things are. In order to make things seem more manageable, you have to work from the inside-out and first change your perception, by slowing down.

Although life is fast paced, it’s not always possible trying to keep up with everything. With all the static and noise in our lives, rushing around and trying to do it all only creates a ton of confusion and frustration.

My Introduction to Meditation

Back in the 70’s when I was just a teenager, my dad took me on a fabulous Fall weekend retreat in Vermont and I learned how to meditate. Amidst the beautiful Autumn foliage, each morning we would wake up early and do yoga, have breakfast and then spend the rest of the day listening to speakers giving lectures, talking about the value of meditation.

Then in the afternoon everyone would sit quietly and practice meditating. Along with everyone else, I was given a mantra and told to repeat the sound over and over again in my mind.

Avoid The Tendency to Be Perfect and Just Be

When we returned home, I watched my dad meditate each morning and evening without fail. To my young, adoring eyes, it seemed like he did everything so perfectly. For 20 minutes he would sit motionlessly in his favorite buttery leather chair. Then when he was done, his eyes opened and he always seemed so refreshed.

But for me, it seemed that everytime I sat down to meditate, I would fall asleep in that delightfully comfy chair. And eventually I got so frustrated by it all, I stopped meditating for years.

For a long time I felt this process of self-relaxation was so ridiculous and unnecessary, that I gave up on it. But now at 51 years old, with wisdom behind me, I get it. So I’m finding my way back. It’s my secret to sanity.

I really understand the value in slowing down. So if you don’t already know how wonderful meditating is, I want to help you to make it easier.

The good thing is you don’t have to make it into a long drawn out ceremony and you don’t have to do anything but just relax into it.

Meditation: My Way

Today although I don’t meditate every morning, when I do, it’s always a much more focused, productive and joyful day. On those days it feels like I’m in sync with life. Things are easier, more fun and I’m at my best.

My way of meditating is to just sit down quietly on the sofa in my office or another quiet spot at home, close my eyes, and to just let my mind rest. Rather than focusing on the mantra that was given to me years ago, I just listen to my breath and watch my thoughts go by. Sometimes I set a timer for 20 minutes, (I like the number) and other times, I’ll just open my eyes to peek at the time every now and then. The only goal that I hold in my mind is to just slow down.

All you have to do is spend a few moments in silence. Start small and work your way up. Maybe you’re rushing around doing errands. Before you leave your car, just take a moment or two to clear your head and be really present. Being silent and connecting with yourself is also a wonderful way of enjoying a walk.

If you give yourself the gift of time and really make a commitment to yourself to take a little sliver of silence each day, over time you will feel less inclined to keep up with a crazy pace. Taking this quiet time to be mindful of your thoughts helps you to recognize when you’re making mountains out of molehills. And when you’re feeling so much pressure from life, isn’t it nice to know that you can always turn within, to slow everything back down?

I’ve been noticing a lot of conversations on Facebook that women are having with each other about being so frustrated with themselves because they fear gaining weight over the holidays.

If you’ve been having a tough time and you’re beating up on yourself for overeating, I want you to know that no good can come from you beating up on yourself. Because you’ll only be adding insult to injury. It’s like pouring salt on a wound. You’re already hurting. Why pummel yourself to the ground when you’re already down?

So many times we are our own worst enemies, because we put ourselves through so much unnecessary torture, unreasonable deadlines, making promises that we can’t keep, and looking for validation from others and ignoring our own inner wisdom.

The Benefits of Going Within

Have you ever noticed how sometimes the world seems to go by so fast and there doesn’t seem to be enough time in the day to just slow down?

Don’t buy into it. It’s not true. It’s just an illusion. It’s just your perception of the way things are. In order to make things seem more manageable, you have to work from the inside-out and first change your perception, by slowing down.

Although life is fast paced, it’s not always possible trying to keep up with everything. With all the static and noise in our lives, rushing around and trying to do it all only creates a ton of confusion and frustration.

My Introduction to Meditation

Back in the 70’s when I was just a teenager, my dad took me on a fabulous Fall weekend retreat in Vermont and I learned how to meditate. Amidst the beautiful Autumn foliage, each morning we would wake up early and do yoga, have breakfast and then spend the rest of the day listening to speakers giving lectures, talking about the value of meditation.

Then in the afternoon everyone would sit quietly and practice meditating. Along with everyone else, I was given a mantra and told to repeat the sound over and over again in my mind.

Avoid The Tendency to Be Perfect and Just Be

When we returned home, I watched my dad meditate each morning and evening without fail. To my young, adoring eyes, it seemed like he did everything so perfectly. For 20 minutes he would sit motionlessly in his favorite buttery leather chair. Then when he was done, his eyes opened and he always seemed so refreshed.

But for me, it seemed that everytime I sat down to meditate, I would fall asleep in that delightfully comfy chair. And eventually I got so frustrated by it all, I stopped meditating for years.

For a long time I felt this process of self-relaxation was so ridiculous and unnecessary, that I gave up on it. But now at 51 years old, with wisdom behind me, I get it. So I’m finding my way back. It’s my secret to sanity.

I really understand the value in slowing down. So if you don’t already know how wonderful meditating is, I want to help you to make it easier.

The good thing is you don’t have to make it into a long drawn out ceremony and you don’t have to do anything but just relax into it.

Meditation: My Way

Today although I don’t meditate every morning, when I do, it’s always a much more focused, productive and joyful day. On those days it feels like I’m in sync with life. Things are easier, more fun and I’m at my best.

My way of meditating is to just sit down quietly on the sofa in my office or another quiet spot at home, close my eyes, and to just let my mind rest. Rather than focusing on the mantra that was given to me years ago, I just listen to my breath and watch my thoughts go by. Sometimes I set a timer for 20 minutes, (I like the number) and other times, I’ll just open my eyes to peek at the time every now and then. The only goal that I hold in my mind is to just slow down.

All you have to do is spend a few moments in silence. Start small and work your way up. Maybe you’re rushing around doing errands. Before you leave your car, just take a moment or two to clear your head and be really present. Being silent and connecting with yourself is also a wonderful way of enjoying a walk.

If you give yourself the gift of time and really make a commitment to yourself to take a little sliver of silence each day, over time you will feel less inclined to keep up with a crazy pace. Taking this quiet time to be mindful of your thoughts helps you to recognize when you’re making mountains out of molehills. And when you’re feeling so much pressure from life, isn’t it nice to know that you can always turn within, to slow everything back down?