Moving When you walk through your home and office, are you often reminded of the stuff that you no longer use and enjoy? Whether it’s a growing pile of papers on your desk, a mountain of unused electronics in your garage or an entire room devoted to castoffs, how is your decision to hold onto your unused possessions affecting the way you feel about yourself?

Many times as emotional eaters, we turn to food to avoid feeling our uncomfortable feelings. The consequence of that is that we shut ourselves off from reality and fall into a trance believing that our lives would be perfect if only …we were thinner.

But that’s not true. It’s a lie. You may know this deep down in your heart, because during the times when you have been thinner, it didn’t necessary mean that you were happier. Maybe like me, you might have noticed that you just switched obsessions. In my case, I went from overeating to overspending.

In order to be happier, and more at peace, we need to get honest with ourselves. We need to become aware of the patterns in our lives that are hurting us and making us feel ashamed of ourselves. No amount of punishment in the present is going to make us feel any better about the shame we feel about our past.

Overspending is one of those ways that we numb our feelings. If you’ve fallen into that trap, that doesn’t mean that you’re a bad person or stupid, it just means that was the best way that you knew how to handle your situation at the time.

How decluttering  gave me back my self-respect

Two years ago when my family and I sold our home to protect us from foreclosure, I came face to face with my biggest addiction; spending. Over the years my way of handling stress was to go out and buy stuff. The more I had, the more I wanted until my spending ways pushed my family into the abyss of debt.

When the movers came to do an estimate of our possessions, I was shocked to find out that we had 29,000 pounds of stuff and the cost to move it all just about 5 miles up the road was going to be $8000.

My head spun with shame. I always knew that I liked shopping, but because all our stuff was so neatly packed away out of sight, I didn’t realize that I had a problem. I just knew that I shopped like a fiend to give myself a sense of instant gratification, to fill the hole that I felt existed in my heart.

I figured since I was already working on repaying back the debt, I made it my goal to lighten my load and clear the clutter. I decided that everything that felt bad, or brought up any negative memories, had to go. From my old wedding dress, to oh so many boxes of books, bags, pocket books, shoes, clothes and household items. I was going to start over, shame free. Every week for almost 14 months, I packed up boxes, placed them in my driveway and by the afternoon the veterans had come to pick them up. With each passing week, of choosing to clear out and make space a priority, I felt free in ways that I had never felt before.

My decision to re-evaulate what I wanted and needed in my home and space, gave me back my self-respect. My binges became fewer because I wasn’t always getting triggered by the feelings of overwhelm that used to come with seeing so much stuff.

I began treating myself with more love and compassion. With each item that I cleared, there seemed to be a story. It confounded me as to why I was holding onto things that hurt me so much I cried when I looked at them. But I had been doing that. As I began to release the pain of so many hurtful memories in the form of computers, clothing, and furniture, paintings and electronics, and even 10 boxes of old files, I began to feel lighter, more at peace with the person I was becoming.

Do you have any stuff in your life that’s holding you back from lovin’ the skin you’re in?

I’d like to invite you to join me and a wonderful group of other women in my new FB group, “30 Days to Lovin’ the Skin You’re In” We’ll be launching on October 28 and this free program will cover practical ways that you can go beyond ‘love my body’ lip service and move into the deepest kind of self-love; self-acceptance. Because unlike what you may have been led to believe. The problem is not your body. but hating yourself is. Isn’t it time to stop the hate and end the need to beat up on yourself and treat your body like trash? Another diet won’t fix you, because you’re not broken.

I want to teach you the action steps you can take to treat yourself more respectfully and lovingly at every size.

30 Days to Lovin’ the Skin You’re In

https://www.facebook.com/groups/431432387054837/431451970386212/

When you walk through your home and office, are you often reminded of the stuff that you no longer use and enjoy? Whether it’s a growing pile of papers on your desk, a mountain of unused electronics in your garage or an entire room devoted to castoffs, how is your decision to hold onto your unused possessions affecting the way you feel about yourself?

Many times as emotional eaters, we turn to food to avoid feeling our uncomfortable feelings.

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